It is takes lot of pain and efforts to be good parent and becoming a loving dad is biggest challenge for the fathers, as most of fathers are considered ‘the angry man’ in the house. But I found the story turns different, if we follow few good steps.
What can we do ? – is a million dollar question indeed, I found few suggestion from some of my intelligent people through their articles and their experiences, who perhaps are better dad in life then many of us and they share few suggestions, which is easy to follow and is absolutely cost free.
- Play and have fun. It is really very important to show the better part of your fatherhood to your kids, we must show to our kids that we enjoy being their father.
- Role as a father. As a Dad we support our kids financially and emotionally and perform our role is to discipline along with the mother. Make parenting a partnership. Don’t be afraid to tell your child “I love you, I’m proud of you.”
- Spend time with and take responsibility for your children. Some fathers miss opportunities to spend time with their kids because they have competing responsibilities or interests that may or may not benefit them.
- Be a teacher by both word and example. Children will not grow up and miraculously already know right from wrong. Children need to be taught right from wrong and will need to see it demonstrated by their father.
- Make Decision in their presence: Make decisions in front of them and explain to them why you came to that resolution. Talk to them about choices you made in the past and why they did (or didn’t) work out. Evaluate all of your own decisions by thinking: “What would I want my child to do in this situation?” Teach your children that it is okay to make mistakes. Everyone makes them. You do and they will too. The important thing is to learn from your mistakes and try to avoid making the same mistakes over and over again.
- Show affection. Some men may be uncomfortable with offering their children affection and communicating their love. Being affectionate with your child shows them that you love them. It also teaches them to show affection to others.
- Give due respect to your parents. Kids learn by examples, and we must pose a best model of respect, care and obedience to our children by performing our role as a son for our parents, we can not expect respect from our childrens when we keep our parents humulating and not treating them with respect.
- Don’t Pressure Them. your child feels a lot of pressure especially if they have and older brother or sister. It is important for you not to pressure them in school,sports,or any other aspects of their lives.Teens seem to do better without all the expectations from there parents.The child will soon realize they need to correct it and they will just support them with whatever. ( somehow I differ from this one a bit )
- Treat each child separate. Never compare your child with your relatives child or your own children if they are good or better. Treat each child separately and look for a treatment exclusively for him. Remember two child may be all together different in terms of efforts, study, taste and caliber
- Fulfill your promises. If you travel a lot more and spend less time with your children, you have an obligation to set aside time to spend with them when you are at home and to fulfill promises that you have made to your children. You may feel tired, but that is not an excuse to brush off your children, who have waited for days and sometimes weeks to see you again.
